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Re: Your date of death
« Reply #25 on: March 31, 2016, 03:03:24 PM »
Definitely Shaker. Would that everyone felt that way - I'm sure most do but don't seem to be able to put it into practice (I sincerely hope I do).

I also echo Rhiannon's sentiments in her last post, to Enki.
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Re: Your date of death
« Reply #26 on: April 01, 2016, 09:13:00 AM »
Bloody hell - talk about a tough crowd!
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Re: Your date of death
« Reply #27 on: April 02, 2016, 01:07:17 PM »
Just supposing it was possible to predict exactly when you were going to die, would you want to know, if you had a choice in the matter?

I definitely wouldn't want to know.

We can all find out  :)

http://www.deathclock.com/

Apparently, I'm going to die on Friday the 3rd of Febuary 2023; I've put it in my Google Calendar so that I don't forget.
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Re: Your date of death
« Reply #28 on: April 19, 2016, 04:53:32 PM »
Adding to this thread rather than starting a new topic!

On the way home (from the gym) this morning, I called in to the Funeral Directors' office. I'd been thinking about doing this for a while, since reading about Jessica Mitford's book on American funeral costs. This book was, it seems, a best-seller for years, not just months! She challenged the enormous costs which people were being encouraged to pay for all sorts of things that really were not necessary! Also, I heard something recently about embalming, so I thought I'd make some enquiries.

I started by saying that they had done both my parents' funerals and that I'd ask my sons to go to them too. when the time comes. The answers to my questions were - that they do not embalm except for particular, unusual circumstances, that the most important need fortheir services was the fridge space, that as my sons are not, as we have agreed,  going to have anybody at the crematorium and that there is not going to be any kind of gathering, they could choose the first appt in the morning, thus ensuring that this could be arranged within a week, that if I die at home, i.e. not in hospital, and a coroner has to be called on, this is cheaper, because the coroner is paid for by local Authorities or something.

Well, it's important to be practical and to know these things, I think! :D

My sons will arrange a venue with drinks and sandwiches on a suitable date in case anyone wants to take part in such a wake.


I hasten to add that  I shall do my best to put the occasion off for as long as possible! :)
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Re: Your date of death
« Reply #29 on: April 19, 2016, 06:02:30 PM »
So I should hope Susan!

You've done something very sensible, I might do the same.  Having sorted it out we can forget about it.
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Re: Your date of death
« Reply #30 on: April 20, 2016, 06:56:00 AM »
Adding to this thread rather than starting a new topic!

On the way home (from the gym) this morning, I called in to the Funeral Directors' office. I'd been thinking about doing this for a while, since reading about Jessica Mitford's book on American funeral costs. This book was, it seems, a best-seller for years, not just months! She challenged the enormous costs which people were being encouraged to pay for all sorts of things that really were not necessary! Also, I heard something recently about embalming, so I thought I'd make some enquiries.

I started by saying that they had done both my parents' funerals and that I'd ask my sons to go to them too. when the time comes. The answers to my questions were - that they do not embalm except for particular, unusual circumstances, that the most important need fortheir services was the fridge space, that as my sons are not, as we have agreed,  going to have anybody at the crematorium and that there is not going to be any kind of gathering, they could choose the first appt in the morning, thus ensuring that this could be arranged within a week, that if I die at home, i.e. not in hospital, and a coroner has to be called on, this is cheaper, because the coroner is paid for by local Authorities or something.

Well, it's important to be practical and to know these things, I think! :D

My sons will arrange a venue with drinks and sandwiches on a suitable date in case anyone wants to take part in such a wake.


I hasten to add that  I shall do my best to put the occasion off for as long as possible! :)

Hi Susan,

Smoke Gets in Your Eyes by Caitlin Doughty is a fascinating read on the subject, be it from an American perspective. She is also a founder member of the Order of the Good death:

http://www.orderofthegooddeath.com/members/your-mortician

and does a number of off-beat videos on utube:

 https://www.youtube.com/user/OrderoftheGoodDeath
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Re: Your date of death
« Reply #31 on: April 20, 2016, 07:01:35 AM »
My granddad knew the exact date of his death - the judge told him.

Yes, personally I would like to know. To die without having settled your affairs leaves behind a tremendous amount of work and at least sometimes a huge headache that others have to deal with. I wouldn't willingly inflict that on anybody. To a very large extent I feel that I've stripped down and streamlined my life and put my affairs in order already, but knowing I was going to die at some specific time would allow me to go over everything again.

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