Whether politics or religion even every subject under the sun there is always people pleaser's.
Thankfully, I don't subscribe to that point of view.
'Honesty', played an integral part in the views I have about most things.
This includes people.
As a child, I watched as people include and excluded for many reasons from groups and even the everyday friendships.
I was blessed to be one of 9 children there was nowhere to be alone in our house but the toilet. And even there people
would often mither knocking on the door and asking " Have you finished yet" Like as if, the door would still be shut and you
sitting on the toilet if you had.
My mother was not one for going along with the crowd, she taught us to think for ourselves.
We did not get involved with people who were one day your friend and the next off to new pastures and your enemy.
You get what you give so reap what you sow. That includes holes in your clothes if ducking under barbwire fences on farms where you weren't suppose to be and showing your knickers if wearing a dress. So many times as children we would spend time where we weren't suppose to be. It was my big sister's fault. They took us where we were not suppose to go. My excuse and I am sticking to it.
Cut a long story short, never like people using others to get to you. Dumped boyfriends who tried to make
me jealous very immature. Did not make friends with those who treated others badly or mocked others for all sorts of reasons in school.
I just loved straight forward people. People who were not planning how to get reactions from you.
Who accepted you for what and who you were. I hate games that humans play with each other in relationships whether platonic or otherwise. I am not people pleaser. I love uncomplicated and straightforward thinkers.
You set your boundaries if they go beyond you end it. I know nothing is perfect in life but the simple thinking and good natured fun loving people are the best because they cause so little problems for you.
I find the world now is full of how to get the response you want from others. Be it voters, customers, or even selling a product.
#What do you think about 'people pleasing and manipulation'? Is the human so superficial it can be steered to think and buy
things it really doesn't want or ever needed?
Do you think relationships formed on 'making someone react' really have a sound basis?
I am contemplating these things. My youngest Son will be 21 tomorrow. I was thinking back to when I was 21 and working.
The lads and lassies I worked with celebrated with me. I took a massive cake in and we went to the pub at lunchtime.
I had a social life and also did ballroom and latin american dancing two nights a week.
My son is computer mad, has friends and is great on computers and gaming.
Tomorrow his Father will take us out for Lunch as he my son hates fuss.
I want so much more for him at this age than I did myself. The world is so different to when I was 21.
People pleasers are in full force now.
Have you experienced the affect of them?