Dear Torridon,
No one doubts love exists!!
What is Love?
I look forward to our Shaker giving us the OED definition and our Leonard telling us it is all about evolution.
And remember, no mumbo jumbo allowed.
Gonnagle.
My pleasure, Gonners!
Love is :-
1) A posh name for the parental, protective instinct that arose during evolution.
2) A posh name for the choice of partner we make for reproduction.
3) A posh name for the group instinct which binds us together in the fight for survival.
Any combination of the above three.
A problem with this is that this is not speaking about the same thing as when the bible says, "God is love". In 1 John 4:8 and 16, John is using the word "agape". Greek has 3 other words for love, but this "agape" is different from those words. "Agape" love is the sort of love a nurse shows to a patient. She may or may not like her patient, but she seeks the patient's good, no matter what his or her feelings.
That doesn't fit with any or your items above. Your items would most likely be "storge", "eros" and "philia" respectively.
I think the love that Jesus was indicating was a bit different. What you say about the nurse could be equally related to her duty as a nurse. I suspect that the 'Jesus' love refers to a state of being which when radiated from the core (from the Latin for 'heart') of that being is indifferent to its recipient, like the analogy 'the sun shines on all. no matter whether good or bad'. When 'in love' what else can you do but express it. I agree that it does not relate to the more self centred procreative urges although there are instances of self sacrifice arising from those urges.
Yes, it is her/his duty as a nurse, but it is something she/he has signed up for. My point is that
agape love does not
necessarily entail any emotion, which is different to how the term is usually used by most people.
Being "in love" has nothing to do with
agape love, despite people often having 1 Corinthians 13 read at church weddings.