You may not like what science is telling us about the sub-conscious controlling our actions but that doesn't mean it isn't the case. It is early days regarding that area of scientific research though but the indications are that that is how things work. You might just need to learn how to deal with that.
I am aware of the discovery that specific brain activity occurs seconds before we make apparently conscious decisions, but the scientific deduction that sub conscious brain activity alone controls our apparently free will decisions is blatently incorrect. Participants of major sports such as F1 racing, football, boxing, tennis etc all have to make instant decisions based upon real time conscious awareness. If brain activity needs to be induced seconds prior to implementing a conscious decision, there must me something outside the deterministic rules of science which induces it.
So, Alan, if you are driving (assuming you do) and you approach, say, traffic lights or a blind bend do you will anticipate various options based on both previous experience and the presenting situation: the lights may be due to change, there could be something hidden around the bend etc etc?
You will subconsciously anticipate some possibilities from experience and then there are the actual circumstances that you encounter, and your biology seems quite capable of processing and reacting (or not) to these various options and even then there is always the possibility that you make a mistake.
It is just applied biology, Alan: nothing more than that, and your underlying assumption that 'there must me something outside the deterministic rules of science which induces it' is getting in the way of your thinking even in respect of how people navigate their way through everyday situations.