Gabriella,
As you are aware "indoctrination" is the word used by certain atheists on this forum to describe parents teaching their children religious values. This teaching of subjective values to children is not always bad, nor is it a form of abuse.
Not really. “Certain values” aren’t necessarily religious – they’re just values. The indoctrination bit concerns teaching as facts claims you cannot know to be facts.
I actually find your posts quote troubling, for three reasons:
First, values of decency, self-respect, honesty etc are fine and useful. I see no reason for them to be taught alongside claims of gods, souls, devils and the like though which is presumably why the jails aren’t disproportionately populated with atheists - just the opposite in fact.
Second, you’re proposing the useful lie theory – “OK, I have no way to know whether or not this factual claim is true but the fact that I make it reinforces behaviours that are useful, therefore it’s ok”. Call me naďve, but I happen to think that truth has a value of its own - it’s less important perhaps when children grow out of thinking that if they behave well the tooth fairy will come, but if we privilege non-truths as adults that seems to me to open the door to any manner of harmful nonsense too. Are you not risking disarming your children against harmful claims in their futures by teaching them that woo has epistemic value over just guessing?
Third, while I’m all for a sense of community, tribalism by contrast seems to me to be the root of a great deal of disharmony and conflict. The moment you think that your tribe alone has the correct keys to divine knowledge and reward then, by definition, the other tribes don’t – why then shouldn’t the tribe members who think themselves thus privileged behave accordingly? After all they know what god
really wants don’t they?
Oh, and our four all seem to me to be thoroughly well-behaved, generous-minded and valuable members of society by the way. Where do you think we went wrong exactly as parents by not throwing god(s) into the mix?