Aren't you trying to be the cosmic judge wishing, though well meaning to forgive your sins and tackle your personal inner life.
I'm sorry Rhiannon I'm sure you mean well but you are not the one.
Dealing with your own stuff? Let's transfer that to psychiatry...oh yes, sort yourself out.
Sometimes we need saving Rhiannon and people risk and sacrifice themselves I think they deserve a bit of gratitude.
I don't judge myself or others as 'sinful'; all I can do is try to take a clear-eyed view of my own personal failings and deal with them as best I can. It's not about being well-meaning, it's about knowing that the buck stops with me. I screw up, I pay. That is the reality of it. There's nothing supernatural in the process.
Sort yourself out? Who is the psychiatric profession recommends that? Have I?
Of course we all need other people and we live in a world of heroes and sacrifice. But when it comes to the inner things, we have to be prepared to save ourselves; nobody can do it for us, although if we are lucky we will find the kind and steadfast to journey through it with us, even if we fall. And I don't know why you think I am ungrateful to others, but none of that has anything to do with the myth of penal substitution.