PD, I've been a governor, I know how important Ofsted are; independent schools are able to have much more flexibility. And they fall outside LEA control, who are responsible for fining parents for term time holidays.
You personalised this discussion by saying that my 'disapproval of state schools' (a position I don't hold) ''says more about me'. I'm sorry if I have made choices for my children that you don't like, and for believing I know them better than any teacher ever can. Quite what that 'says about me' I have no idea.
I am well aware of the importance of OFSTED - not only am I also a governor of a state school that is outside LEA control, but also own a 'private' school (albeit one that caters for very young kids) that is regulated and inspected by OFSTED.
Regarding the 'personalisation' of the matter - as I pointed out to NS the two lines on that (which seem to be taking over the debate to an extent I rather regret posting them) weren't used within my rebuttal of your claim at the time, nor since.
Your choice of school is entirely a matter for you, and your bad experience in the state sector does seem to be a major factor in that choice (I think you'd freely admit that). But your individual bad experience doesn't mean all state schools are tarred with the same brush. On the specific issue of discretion and authority for Heads to grant (or not) absence in term time I have demonstrated that your assertion that state schools don't have that option (while private schools do) is simply non-sense. Both through the example of the school where I am a governor where this has happened actually rather more recently than your example and within the more rigid recent framework. And also, by reference to the government framework itself (including linking directly to government documents) demonstrated that the rules that govern state school authority in this area are identical to those for private schools.
Now I am sorry if you have taken offence by my comment - trust me this wasn't intended. My comment about this saying more about you than about the state schools was perhaps ill judged, but let me try to explain what I mean. I sorry if you don't like this, but you do come across to me as someone who's bad experience in one state school seems to have somehow clouded their judgement of the whole sector, which of course includes thousands of schools both good and bad that neither you nor I have experience of. I have no problem with you bad-mouthing a particular state school that you have experience of (and how could I anyway because only you have that experience). Where I do have a problem, and will pull you up on it, is where you by inference bad mouth the whole sector. Again that may not be your intention, but that can be the impression given.
When I have engaged in these discussions I have always been at pains to point out (without prompting) that when defending the state sector that I freely accept there are good and bad schools in the state sector, just as I also accept that there are good and bad schools in the private sector. I trust you also accept both of those points.
Now I hope we can get back to discussing the issue in a less personalised manner (albeit we will bring our own individual experiences to bear but I trust we can accept that individual experience either good or bad of individual schools can never be a proxy for a view of the whole of a sector).