You all claim different things, Alan. That there is no Christian consensus is not my fault or my problem, but yours. So instead of the brush off, why not explain what you mean.
Andy, unlike many religions where an adherent's relationship is with a set of rules, Christianity is all about a relationship with a sentient being - the Creator.
As I am sure you will accept, that type of relationship is always far more diverse and personal than any relationship with sets of rules. I doubt that, if those of us with siblings were to explain our and our siblings' relationships with our parents, we would say that the relationship was identical for each of us.