Discerning the wheat from the tares.

[ad_orientem]

Is virginity really something to be prized? I am not suggesting people should sleep around, or underage kids indulge in sex, however if you are in a steady relationship what is wrong with having sex? It is daft to go into marriage without seeing if you are compatible sexually.

"Sexual compatibility" is a mostly a myth.

[Leonard James]

Is virginity really something to be prized? I am not suggesting people should sleep around, or underage kids indulge in sex, however if you are in a steady relationship what is wrong with having sex? It is daft to go into marriage without seeing if you are compatible sexually.

"Sexual compatibility" is a mostly a myth.

Then your knowledge of sex is abysmal.

[ad_orientem]

Is virginity really something to be prized? I am not suggesting people should sleep around, or underage kids indulge in sex, however if you are in a steady relationship what is wrong with having sex? It is daft to go into marriage without seeing if you are compatible sexually.

"Sexual compatibility" is a mostly a myth.

Then your knowledge of sex is abysmal.

No. For people with a normal sex drive sexual compatibility is not an issue. What it really means is "Is he/she into kinky shit?" or something like that but that's just bollocks. For people in a relationship nearly any problem can be sorted out over time.

[Leonard James]

Is virginity really something to be prized? I am not suggesting people should sleep around, or underage kids indulge in sex, however if you are in a steady relationship what is wrong with having sex? It is daft to go into marriage without seeing if you are compatible sexually.

"Sexual compatibility" is a mostly a myth.

Then your knowledge of sex is abysmal.

No. For people with a normal sex drive sexual compatibility is not an issue. What it really means is "Is he/she into kinky shit?" or something like that but that's just bollocks. For people in a relationship nearly any problem can be sorted out over time.

OK, AO, I think it is wiser to leave it at that. 

[Outrider]

No. For people with a normal sex drive sexual compatibility is not an issue. What it really means is "Is he/she into kinky shit?" or something like that but that's just bollocks. For people in a relationship nearly any problem can be sorted out over time.

The fact that you think 'kinky shit' is not a part of a 'normal sex drive' shows that there are a huge number of people out there with whom you would not be sexually compatible.

For people in strong relationships, yes problems can be overcome, but one of the ways to have a strong relationship in the first place is to have a broad range of areas where you are compatible - sexually is just one of those ways.

O.

[Leonard James]

No. For people with a normal sex drive sexual compatibility is not an issue. What it really means is "Is he/she into kinky shit?" or something like that but that's just bollocks. For people in a relationship nearly any problem can be sorted out over time.

The fact that you think 'kinky shit' is not a part of a 'normal sex drive' shows that there are a huge number of people out there with whom you would not be sexually compatible.

For people in strong relationships, yes problems can be overcome, but one of the ways to have a strong relationship in the first place is to have a broad range of areas where you are compatible - sexually is just one of those ways.

O.

Spot on, as usual.

[ad_orientem]

It's just a modern buzzword for something that really doesn't exist outside the realm of normal people.

[Outrider]

It's just a modern buzzword for something that really doesn't exist outside the realm of normal people.

Except that 'normal' is just a buzzword for mainstream people to mean 'not like me'. Sexual tastes and mores vary incredibly across the populace, and none of it is 'abnormal' or 'wrong' so long as the people participating are all doing so willingly.

Missionary position, with the lights on, but with your eyes closed, for the purposes of procreation, in less than three minutes (no talking) is not the start and finish of acceptable sex.

O.

[floo]

Is virginity really something to be prized? I am not suggesting people should sleep around, or underage kids indulge in sex, however if you are in a steady relationship what is wrong with having sex? It is daft to go into marriage without seeing if you are compatible sexually.

"Sexual compatibility" is a mostly a myth.

You reckon? What if she wants it ten times a day, and him only on a Sunday, that could be awkward! 

[Outrider]

Is virginity really something to be prized? I am not suggesting people should sleep around, or underage kids indulge in sex, however if you are in a steady relationship what is wrong with having sex? It is daft to go into marriage without seeing if you are compatible sexually.

"Sexual compatibility" is a mostly a myth.

You reckon? What if she wants it ten times a day, and him only on a Sunday, that could be awkward! 

It just makes birthday presents really easy - "Batteries!"

O.

[Leonard James]

It's just a modern buzzword for something that really doesn't exist outside the realm of normal people.

Except that 'normal' is just a buzzword for mainstream people to mean 'not like me'. Sexual tastes and mores vary incredibly across the populace, and none of it is 'abnormal' or 'wrong' so long as the people participating are all doing so willingly.

Missionary position, with the lights on, but with your eyes closed, for the purposes of procreation, in less than three minutes (no talking) is not the start and finish of acceptable sex.

O.

  Beautiful!