I know I have mentioned this on a number of occasions but will do so again. When my husband had his devastating brain haemorrhage in December 2006, a 'born again' friend of ours was very ill too. Many well meaning prayers were said for both of them. My husband recovered, albeit with half his brain trashed, our friend died. Now if my husband had died of course it would have been very sad, but as our children were adults leading independent lives we would have coped. However, in the case of our friend his death caused great distress and trauma to his family who were still young; one of whom was disabled. I raised this question on a forum as to why my husband had lived, and our friend died and got the stock answer from a fundie. The deity allowed my husband to live so he could get 'saved'! This is quite amusing because whilst my husband was in a coma he had some sort of experience, which convinced him beyond all doubt that no deity or afterlife existed!
Convinced HIM! And I am extremely sorry that he did not have a complete recovery. Sometimes a partial recovery is worse, far worse, than either a complete recovery or a complete failure to recover.
Why his experience should be used, by anyone, in an attempt to convince others is beyond me.
My beliefs, my religion, is personal to me! I expect no-one other than myself to follow my beliefs as they are based upon MY experiences, and, unless someone else has exactly, in every minute detail, the same experiences they cannot possibly understand why I believe what I believe and, as far as I am concerned, that goes for all religious belief or, in the case of atheists, disbelief.
As both Rhi and I have said on many occasions on this Forum, what really pisses me off is when people who have not the vaguest idea of what I believe and why I believe it, or how I practice it, whose only knowledge of my beliefs is gained from others who have a vested interest in dissing what I believe to suit their own purposes of pushing their beliefs onto myself and others, of telling me that what I believe is sinful, wrong, fantasy or anything else negative, I find myself wondering who they are trying to convince of the rightness of what they are pushing, me or themselves.
In most cases I think that it is the latter.