Dear Owlswing,
There would appear to be no give and take whatsoever, only hard and fast divisions.
One reason, time
Quite a lot of posters have been at each others throat for years, I don't think Bashers or Shaker will mind me using them as a example, but there are many more and sometimes they all kind of mingle, like a form of dance
Step back from the squabbles and watch, it can be very entertaining, oh and look out for the humour between old hands, sometimes you only get it from knowing they have been at it for years.
Also, watch out for posters that you think are constantly squabbling, when a poster has a problem you will find that it is generally the ones who they have been squabbling with are the first to help.
Gonnagle.