Although this doesn't satisfy the first half of the question, it certainly satisfies the second - and this past year especially. My wife. She has been a rock on which I can and have leant on many occasions. Perhaps more than anything, she has not stood for any nonsense and my feeling sorry for myself, which has made me look at the things that happened in 2015 (and the end of 2014) - not necessarily in a good light, but in a positive light.
Sorry if I've slightly tripped up the thread, but I felt it needed saying somewhere in public, even though she'll never read this forum.