Brownie
It seems to me that your ideas about "Soviet countries" is incorrect. On the contrary they seem to be deeply Christian with all the hypocrisy that involves; intrinsically homophobic, etc.
There aren't Soviet countries any more John, when the Soviets ruled atheism was the philosophy that was promoted (the church remained quite strong in Poland, the people hung onto it as a light at the end of the tunnel but Poland is not Russia). I've no idea what the attitude to homosexuals was in those days, you are probably right about the homophobia, it wouldn't surprise me at all.
Now of course the Russian Orthodox church flourishes as do various other churches and sects - and a lot of homophobia and racism. Can't win.
Floo, it is quite understandable that you wish your family hadn't been so steeped in church, quite a narrow, hardline church too from what you say. I was really surprised the other day when you said your parents didn't have friends from church, only acquaintances! One thing I've come across with people heavily involved in a church is that they have a lot of friends and friendships are fostered. Interesting but that's by the by. Anyway, I'm sure I wouldn't have liked that either so understand how you feel. It couldn't have been all bad though, floo. You must have had good times and you were well brought up, according to their lights.