Dear Floo, Rhiannon and Gordon,
The homosexual question, it makes us all foam at the mouth, we see the stupidity, we point out the stupidity ( I am using the word stupid, you can use any other word you like ) are we any further forward, for me personally homophobic thinking damages Christianity, it is a nasty side that needs to be challenged, eradicated, how do I do that! But then, may be just calling out their stupidity time after time is the only way and it is justified, but I like to think they can be reached, how do I do that.
Gonnagle.
I think perhaps it needs other Christians, such as yourself, to help them along by example: it isn't easy though since those Christians who are hidebound to the fallacies of authority and tradition need to move away from that position to somewhere nearer your outlook and they seem perversely blind to both reason and love.
In spite of the obvious social changes in many parts of the world towards inclusiveness, which I'd have thought would give them food for thought, but instead, and ironically, it seems to have hardened their hearts and, as you say, damages Christianity - and this isn't even the idiocy of evolution deniers and biblical literalists: this is about dealing with real people living real lives in the here and now.
Hopefully the part of Christianity that is in decline is their part and not your part.