sorry - yes, of course, I'm assuming telepathy! There was a question about how the education system should and could help children, e.g. children who have free school meals, to have more of a chance of getting to Oxbridge, as if all children should aspire to careers in law, teaching, etc etc.
I'm still not entirely sure what you mean, but I will give a stab at what I think you mean.
If I am getting you right you are challenging the notion that kids from poor backgrounds should aspire to be middle class - e.g. lawyers, teachers etc. That should not feel to compelled to follow the perceived aspirational drive.
Well that's all very well, but it is easy to see the importance of being able choose one's own path, be it lawyer, teacher, potter, poet, chocolate maker if all those paths are open and none have the downside of being unable to make ends meet and to create a better life for your family and your children.
But that is really the prerogative of those already firmly ensconced in the middle classes, where those options are all open if you have money behind you. You can risk trying your hand as a poet, potter or chocolate maker, safe in the knowledge that were you to fail you can fall back on your education and inheritance. For most that isn't the case and the middle class privilege of being an aspirational potter isn't available as there is the rent to pay, the debts to pay off, the children's future to consider.
So the middle classes who are already the 'haves' may look down on those from poorer background who aspire to their fundamental freedom - the freedom of relative wealth - and sneer. But they shouldn't, because aspiration is all about making life that bit better and easier for your kids, who in turn will do so for their kids etc. So we should celebrate people from poor backgrounds who aspire to (or support their kids) to get a good education, to become a lawyer or a doctor, or a teacher because that is all about providing opportunities and security to the next generation that they didn't have themselves. And a darned good thing that is too.
And I speak at a product of classic generational aspiration - my grandfather worked in a market garden (the poor relation of a farm hand), my parents were a docker and a nurse - I was the part of the first generation of my family to go to university and became a classic middle class professional (an academic) - my kids take for granted that they will go to university and go into a professional career, the question is which university. Each generation have attained more than the last and through hard work created opportunities for their children unknown to themselves.
Now you may be scratching you head at the reference to a chocolate maker - well it was deliberate. A few years ago there was a tv series about a man who set up a business as chocolate maker, risking all on a small business venture and traveling the world to find obscure recipes involving chocolate - classic following your dreams stuff, none of the boring tedium and safety of being a lawyer or a teacher for him. But here is the catch - when you checked his background he went to Eton and had substantial inherited wealth - there was no risk to him at all. His background meant he could 'play' at being a chocolate maker (or a poet, or a potter) safe in the knowledge that if everything went pear shaped he was financially secure and could fall back in his inherited wealth, and (crucially) his connections. Ever wondered how you can get a whole tv series effectively promoting your small chocolate business - well it helps if you went to the right school and have plenty of contacts high up in the media.
So let's not sneer at aspirational kids from poor backgrounds who aspire to being a teacher or a lawyer, or a doctor when they've never known someone in their family, or from their neighbourhood, achieve this. And who will commit to education to achieve their aspiration. Nope, lets celebrate them.