I would never describe myself as an 'earth mother' ye gods, what a ghastly thought!
People on-line make assumptions about me, but if they met me in real life I think they would be surprised. I get on fine with my children/grandchildren. I am not afraid to say what I think even if it doesn't always make me popular, similarly they tell me exactly what they think of me too, which is fine, I have no problem with that at all.
I am not a lovey dovey type of person, but the kids know I care and help them out whenever there is a need financially, which is much appreciated. I used to be a hands on granny too when the grandchildren were younger.
My husband's disability was not in our game plan for marriage, so it came as a massive shock. As I have said before I have stepped up and looked out for the guy since it happened in 2006, knowing full well he would have consigned me to a home tout suite. However, if he becomes any worse, like being unable to attend to his needs or gets dementia like his older brother, I would definitely consign him to a home. I don't feel guilty about that, I have a right to my life too.
I am far from perfect, but I would not wish to be any different, as I wouldn't be me.