Dear Blue,
Well maybe you and ad and his ilk should take it out in the car park or something.
I have done so, on many an occasion on here, but I will do it my way, I am not jaded enough to think there is no hope, little steps, if I can make other Christians at least think about the points I make, but we are a very diverse lot, and I am not big headed enough to think I am a 100% right.
Anyways, you're an exemplar I think of a nice guy who's taken the nice bits from a "holy" book and decided that they're the bits "God" really meant;
Well you and Berational may be right, I could be just picking up on all the good bits, for me, but I think what I am doing is trying to find the truth ( yes I could be deluding myself ).
But I think I am a bit more open about what I am trying to find, I hold no allegiance to any Church, I can wander off and find wisdom in any religion, Hinduism, Sikhism, Islam, Judaism, hell even Atheism ( steady ) but Christianity is my home, I always return home.
So you can call me deluded, or that my confirmation bias is in overdrive, but I will search for the truth my way, and not because some Church tells me this is how you should think.
Gonnagle.