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« Reply #25 on: August 11, 2017, 10:32:46 AM »
I don't think I owe an apology at all, if you watch the documentaries and read the reports excuses for not taking action earlier include statements exactly like the ones Rhiannon is rehashing; the girls were drunk, they came from bad homes, had been previously ill treated in their own homes, they had made bad lifestyle choices, they might be intellectually or temperamentally unable to show up well in court, etc.

When the fact of the matter is, no matter what sort of girls were involved, they were (in the main) legally too young to consent to the way they were treated.

Yes Rhiannon it is very clear that many of the people involved were incompetent and even maybe were prejudiced against the type of girls involved, as you suggest.

I think though the main reason for early inaction as many others say in the reports I highlight, is the fear of being thought racist..... Many excuses for avoiding criticism like this were advanced including ones like those in my opening paragraph.
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« Reply #26 on: August 11, 2017, 10:42:08 AM »
Hmm, I wonder who mentioned in their first post on this thread that the authorities didn't act out of a fear of racism?

Oh yes, I did.

To suggest that I don't care about the victims because they are white is misrepresentation (to be polite). I don't expect an apology from you and nor do I want one. Stay with your self-righteous ignorance, it clearly makes you happy. I'll stick to caring about the opinions of people that I respect.

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« Reply #27 on: August 11, 2017, 10:50:15 AM »
I don't think I owe an apology at all, if you watch the documentaries and read the reports excuses for not taking action earlier include statements exactly like the ones Rhiannon is rehashing; the girls were drunk, they came from bad homes, had been previously ill treated in their own homes, they had made bad lifestyle choices, they might be intellectually or temperamentally unable to show up well in court, etc.

When the fact of the matter is, no matter what sort of girls were involved, they were (in the main) legally too young to consent to the way they were treated.

Yes Rhiannon it is very clear that many of the people involved were incompetent and even maybe were prejudiced against the type of girls involved, as you suggest.

I think though the main reason for early inaction as many others say in the reports I highlight, is the fear of being thought racist..... Many excuses for avoiding criticism like this were advanced including ones like those in my opening paragraph.
So you think accusing someone of not caring for the victims whenever their posts have said no such thing is OK? Why is lying in that way OK with you?

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« Reply #28 on: August 11, 2017, 12:46:08 PM »
I am disappointed that no one here seems interested in discussing my original question, what can we should we do about this?

I also note that according to today's TIMES similar enquiries are in hand in at least 20 other cities throughout the UK. So beware the problem already exists in a city near you.

No Rhianon the problem is not confined to B,ham, nor is it down to middle class social workers.
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« Reply #29 on: August 11, 2017, 01:30:19 PM »
I am sure we will manage without you John, this forum has got much more lively in recent weeks. :)

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« Reply #30 on: August 11, 2017, 02:00:21 PM »
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Did you bother reading to the end of the article in the Independent? The conclusion is that this is predominantly about opportunity - the perpetrators are misogynistic against women/girls and target those that are available - which tends to be white vulnerable girls who are out in the evenings, unlike their Asian counterparts.

Yes, I read to the end of the article in the Independent, Rhi. I assume you mean the one that John referred to. There were various voices in that article which emphasised different interpretations for the same behaviour, to some extent overlapping, and, more importantly gave practical ideas on how it could be tackled. I also read the article that you kindly provided from the Guardian (in post 19), again to the end. I thought the penultimate paragraph made a lot of sense, when it said:

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But equally, cultural sensitivity must not be used as a screen for taking culture off the table altogether. It’s right that people who speak out on this do so with extreme caution, given how easy it is for things to be taken out of context to fuel racial hatred. But we should also be attuned to the fact that cultural sensitivity may make us prone to ignore truths we find uncomfortable.

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And in the cases apart from Newcastle the men involved some from a very specific area - Pakinstani Kashmir.

Not quite true. In Oxford, for instance, two of the seven men were of East African heritage.

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It makes me think of the scandal of priests who abuse. These men aren't taught about sex, they are taught that women are inferior, they have to marry conservative girls from rural Pakistan yet they live in a sexualised culture that they don't understand. And they are exposed to a lot of porn. Education seems to be essential in countering this.

I agree wholeheartedly.

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And if you don't think that the authorities believing that young white girls having sex with men three or four times their age is a 'lifestyle choice' is indicative of the lack of worth that these girls are valued with then words fail me.

Do I think that the council workers(only three according to the Guardian article) who voiced the opinion that girls of 11 were making lifetime choices, were right? Absolutely not.
Yes, it was certain council employees who suggested that they were making lifestyle choices, but you seem to be quite happy to label them vaguely as 'the authorities', just as you quite unjustly in my opinion suggested the idea that white working class girls are regarded as 'trash'across the board, selecting out social workers and council officials for special mention. I think that is most unfair to the vast majority of council officials and social workers across the country. You obviously don't.

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Do you think that the same opinion would have been voiced had these girls been from middle class families?

I have no idea if these three people(or anyone who thinks like them) would hold similar opinions if the girls were middle class.

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And do you not think that people can be failed by their own class?

Of course. However people of a similar background would tend to have greater empathy and understanding of each other.

As I have already said, I don't think it is racist to focus on and challenge this abhorrent behaviour and it is also my opinion that there is a racist element at work in these organised groups. I go along with the thoughts of Lord Macdonald in an interview on Radio 4's 'Today'.


By the way, I watched Newsnight, last night, which had a discussion on this subject between four Muslims. I thought it was quite interesting and informative, as each of the people had differing views and  brought their own thoughts and ideas to bear upon the subject. On the whole I thought that it was quite constructive.
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« Reply #31 on: August 11, 2017, 10:22:57 PM »
We've seen these same kinds of cases many times over the last decade or so but don't seem to have made any progress on the causes behind this gang behaviour or what to do about it?

Can't see that it is racist to acknowledge and deal with these attitudes, behaviour and offences as associated with certain (Muslim, Pakistani, Asian...) communities ... although given the time passed without progress on the causes I would be very surprised if it as not already spread to other communities sharing similar attitudes or conditions.

Am reluctant to say the behaviour and offences are intentionally racist against white girls/women, though there may be underlying racist attitudes. I expect the gangs would exploit any vulnerable women in similar ways, but probably just go for those they can victimise with least trouble - also we don't know (but may guess) the extent to which the communities own women are abused.
 
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« Reply #32 on: August 12, 2017, 07:33:28 AM »
Very good article in today's Sun
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« Reply #33 on: August 12, 2017, 08:58:11 AM »
We've seen these same kinds of cases many times over the last decade or so but don't seem to have made any progress on the causes behind this gang behaviour or what to do about it?

Can't see that it is racist to acknowledge and deal with these attitudes, behaviour and offences as associated with certain (Muslim, Pakistani, Asian...) communities ... although given the time passed without progress on the causes I would be very surprised if it as not already spread to other communities sharing similar attitudes or conditions.

Am reluctant to say the behaviour and offences are intentionally racist against white girls/women, though there may be underlying racist attitudes. I expect the gangs would exploit any vulnerable women in similar ways, but probably just go for those they can victimise with least trouble - also we don't know (but may guess) the extent to which the communities own women are abused.
 

Agree with this very much. Even in the statistics for Birmingham we don't know how many of the grooming offences were committed against girls from their own communities. They clearly do regard white gurks as trash but that doesn't mean they regard Asian girls as much better.

It's not racist to consider why there are groups of men from certain communities carrying out these offences, it's important that it is acknowledged. Equally it has to be done without demonising them - there alreadyban attitude of 'all Muslims are paedos' out there and this is playing into the hands of extremists - we now have an anti Islamic candidate for the UKIP leadership.

I thibk change has to come from within the community and it's about education and openness.

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« Reply #34 on: August 12, 2017, 03:32:59 PM »
I read the informative Independent article about the Imam's sex education talks. I also watched the Newsnight episode that Enki referred to - thanks for that - it was very informative.

I don't know much about the openess of conversations about sex in the Pakistani community. From those people in that community that i have come across, the educated middle class seem to talk about it - but that does not mean that educated middle-class people can't be predators - given the recent conviction of teachers for sex offences against young people. But they would be predators in a different way. There would not be the crudeness of gang rape and passing girls around like meat and openly stating the girls are not worthy of respect.

I know of an Imam in London that runs sex education talks and marriage counselling - no idea what the take up is for the services he offers.

I agree that a lot of the issue is around cultural stereotypes of what type of girls/ women should be respected - in this case the ones that aren't easily accessible. The other issue is that if the victims won't talk and won't report the abuse, either because they are scared or have low self-esteem or they think the criminal really does love them because that is all they know of love, it takes considerable skills and resources for social workers and police to coax them to change their minds.

I can say the Sri Lankan Muslim community that I have experienced are not as uptight about talking about sex as certain parts of the Pakistani community appear to be. They appear to be far less crude and can talk to women - of course what they will say in front of me may be different from what they will say to their male friends. 
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« Reply #35 on: August 15, 2017, 05:15:24 PM »
That is a contradiction in terms.

Snob  :D. I read the SUn, my sister read the Metro, we swapped over & then the food arrived.
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« Reply #36 on: August 15, 2017, 05:20:44 PM »
The latest case show once again that the perpetrators are almost exclusively Asian.

What does that say about the Asian community in general, that a small percentage of society group, is largely responsible for nearly all the offending in this one area?

What do we need to do about it?

PS I tried to put other words in here to define the exact offense I refer to but I couldn't. I presume there is some sort of automatic ban on three letter words beginning with s and ending in x.

You can say "secks". I know that because I tried to say "secksy" the other day and couldn't post the proper spelling.

Going back to your question i have no idea what we need or can do about it except be vigilant &  aware of the signs which abused youngsters will undoubtedly display. Parents & teachers are the ones on the spot to notice anything suspicous. Plus teaching young girls about what isn't appropriate & trying to boost their self esteem.
Sorry not very helpful, can't think of more right now.
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« Reply #37 on: August 15, 2017, 05:31:59 PM »
Snob  :D. I read the SUn, my sister read the Metro, we swapped over & then the food arrived.
Next time I'll go to Cafe Nero or Costa and report back with something more upmarket.
Yeah, Being a snob is thinking that the lies the Sun has pushed and how it gas indulged in casual racism and sexism is unacceptable.

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« Reply #38 on: August 15, 2017, 05:53:21 PM »
Lighten up NS. I was being lighthearted towards SteveH & no doubt he will take my remark that way, I'm not a regular Sun reader, picked it up in a cafe is all - which I said. Honestly  ::).Any excuse for a dig.
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« Reply #39 on: August 15, 2017, 05:59:28 PM »
Lighten up NS. I was being lighthearted towards SteveH & no doubt he will take my remark that way, I'm not a regular Sun reader, picked it up in a cafe is all - which I said. Honestly  ::).Any excuse for a dig.
Yeah, the Sun's position on Hillsborough was lighthearted.

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« Reply #40 on: August 15, 2017, 06:47:41 PM »
Come on, the Sun reported the news that Jeremy Corbyn was responsible for the Manchester bombing. Warra larf.

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« Reply #41 on: August 15, 2017, 07:10:38 PM »
I apologise for even mentioning the Sun, for calling steveH a snob even though I was joking, I will amend my post where the offending word was first used. Consider me told off So please can we stop it now. Thanks.
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« Reply #43 on: August 16, 2017, 03:10:21 PM »
Well if the Sun has dine some 'adapting', that would be a huge shock.

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« Reply #44 on: August 16, 2017, 05:50:50 PM »
She's quit the Labour front bench.

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« Reply #45 on: August 16, 2017, 05:53:37 PM »
She's quit the Labour front bench.
So does that mean The Sun were truthful here and she wasn't?

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« Reply #46 on: August 16, 2017, 05:57:31 PM »
It was an 'unfortunate choice of words' on her part apparently. So no clue.

I'd say that she was toast when shr agreed to write the article.

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« Reply #47 on: August 16, 2017, 06:01:05 PM »
It was an 'unfortunate choice of words' on her part apparently. So no clue.

I'd say that she was toast when shr agreed to write the article.
Which reads that she tried to lie her way out of it but the Sun had enough detail to show she was wrong. Very sad because she seems dedicated to dealing with the issue.

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« Reply #48 on: August 16, 2017, 08:09:27 PM »
I dunno. I think her mistake was allowing herself to be associated with the Sun in the first place; her article appears to give weight to Kavanagh's piece about the 'Muslim problem'.

In terms of alteration, she said that the headline and the opening paragraph weren't hers, so we can assume that the rest is. No idea what she was thinking.

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« Reply #49 on: August 17, 2017, 11:36:54 AM »
I think the fuss that arises on matters of wording usually ends up obscuring the actual issues and factors.
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