Indeed, which is why making objective statements about trauma would be foolish.
What objective statement - I didn't realise I had made any. My perspective is that describing something as a trauma is an individual's choice of words - there is no objective measure of trauma. But if people would prefer I call it trauma, I don't mind using that term.
My perspective is that describing the trauma as trivial is very much subjective. Which is why I wrote that if my kids don't want to waste their time feeling traumatised, they have the option of changing their perspective. I think that if they feel the trauma was trivial they would not be particularly affected by it and would not spend a lot of time dwelling on it. And then I wrote if they were unable to change their perspective, they have no option but to feel traumatised.
For example, I don't think about being caned - except when this topic is brought up - and then I can't really remember the caning. I do have a vague memory of the fear just before hand though - I remember it as similar to the feeling I get when I watch a scary movie or the feeling as you are climbing up on a roller coaster just before the big drop. Not something I would choose to describe as traumatising - it was just scary at the time.
