At our war memorial, there is one prayer - only one, following last post and floors o the forest.
No-one is forced to pray or stay at the point, the silence having been observed.
Prayers are led by the minister, or a priest of the RC church, or a lay person - depending on the committee who organise the 15 minute ceremony.
Those who wish may then attend worship in the Kirk - thirty feet from the war memorial.
I'm not comfortable with the flags and stuff either - my grandfather fought in the Somme and swore if he ever got near a butchers' apron (union jack) again, he's wipe his a***e with it.
The british national anthem is played at the end of the kirk service after the benediction...for those who wish to acknowledge it.
Many of us sit down instead...that REALLY miffs the Orangemen....the only time the kirk will allow them to wear their 'finery' (for want of a better word( in a Sunday service.