So are you saying that control does not exist?
Are we entirely and uncontrollably defined by past events?
And I can't agree with your definition of "me". I am a conscious entity in control of a physical body, not just a consequence of past events!
The feeling of control is an emergent phenomenon whose discussion sits comfortably in higher realms such as psychology. At the more fundamental levels of reality, concepts of control and freedom dissolve. What control do we actually have if we cannot choose what to want or what to believe ? We are in a sense hostage to the past. I did not choose to start growing a backbone as a 10 day old foetus, nor did I choose the development path of becoming a white skinned hetero male nor did I choose to be born in Yorkshire. All broad brush stuff I'm sure you'll agree but later down the line we start to develop sentience and self awareness and characteristics traits that distinguish us from others in more subtle ways but the same principle applies, we ultimately do not choose what subtle and ephemeral characteristics to have but rather they form within us as a consequence of our passage through life. I just made myself a cup of tea two minutes ago. I did not choose to want a cup of tea, rather, the desire for a cuppa arose within me and I acted on it. This is what I mean by '
dissolve'. It makes no sense to claim that I could could choose to want something, because that implies there again must be some prior motivation for wanting to choose to want something. We never develop desire or need for no reason, there is always a reason for things; if this were not true we could not possibly be here discussing it.