An afterlife

[floo]

Indeed - but you originally said that you couldn't forgive her. In fact, as you now admit, you could, but won't. Fair enough, but let's be accurate.

No I can't forgive her.

[wigginhall]

I think it's unwise to legislate for other people's forgiveness or lack of.   People have their own pathway, and it's not for me to tell them how to travel along it.

[floo]

I think it's unwise to legislate for other people's forgiveness or lack of.   People have their own pathway, and it's not for me to tell them how to travel along it.

Hear! Hear!  I suspect others might not have been so forgiving if they had experience of my paternal grandmother.

[Rhiannon]

Deciding to forgive is the beginning of the healing process (if you'll forgive me coming over a bit touchy-feely).

Bollocks.

[SusanDoris]

I have a few opinions on the matter, but if I started explaining, it would look as if there was still a slight problem! There isn't so I shrug my shoulders and continue with the rest of my life with the memories archived and stored away in a remote corner of my long-term memories.

I am learning a few details about memory storage which I sort of knew before, but( the book I'm reading is clarifying it interestingly.)

[wigginhall]

It's just not true.  I've seen people erupt with rage over soneone who had hurt them, and I thought the rage was the beginning of healing.  There is so much bollocks talked about forgiveness.

[Rhiannon]

It's just not true.  I've seen people erupt with rage over soneone who had hurt them, and I thought the rage was the beginning of healing.  There is so much bollocks talked about forgiveness.

The beginning of healing definitely was giving myself permission to feel anger, because I’d always been taught that I wasn’t allowed to be angry. It took a while for it to feel safe to do so, but without it I’d have stayed a victim. Fuck that.

You can be angry and remain true to your values. I’ve never sought revenge.

[wigginhall]

I'm just wary of recipes.  When I was a therapist, there were always people whom therapy did not suit.   So saying to them, you should do therapy, is dangerous.   Same for most things.

[Owlswing]

I find it quite eerie reading about ancient Egypt, with their ideas about the afterlife, and their preparations for it, esp. in the pharaohs' tombs.   There's a lot of pathos in seeing their grave goods, and their mummified bodies.  But then maybe they have gone on to the Land of Two Fields, if that is the correct term. 

Also thought of the old idea that you would be reunited with your family.  OK, but not my mother, please!

My mother an emphatic YES! My Mothers-in-law an equally emphatic NO!