Last year I went to a murder mystery weekend, with a number of friends, who were in terms of the table 70% gay. The story involved the actors talking to the tables, and the 'Lady of the Manor ' came to our table and said to one of my friends who is a tad posh 'Oh, you are one of us'. To which the answer was 'oh no, I'm one of them'.
My aim in many ways is always to be one of them.