This is good
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/20502877.2020.1720429?src=recsys
Fascinating. Although the article looks at a specific context I think it just highlights the general situation - that society is simply not equipped to deal effectively with the legitimate recognition of trans people. When I refer to 'soceity' I mean all of us, even trans people themselves. None of us can figure it out.
There is undoubdtedly a lot of work to do on the non-trans side, starting with understanding more about what trans people want and need. However, it seems clear that the trans community themselves have no definitive answer to this question. Sadly, we appear to be stuck in a rut where any discussion is highjacked by ideology, prejudice and entrenched positions.
I can not accept that sex is a spectrum in any meaningful sense, or that the objective biological reality of it should give way to the subjective notion of gender, which is itself compromosied by the inadequacies of a culture still wrestling with highly prejudiced idea of what men and women
are. These inadequacies, for me, are the root of all the apparent inconsistencies within the trans-rights movement. For example, if it is right to advocate for the acceptance of non-binary people, then why such aggresion in the claim to womanhood? or manhood?.
The only answer, in my eyes, is that we somehow come to a place where sex and gender are recognised equally, honestly and with compassion. As long as we play a game where one should trump the other, which I think is the mistake being made on both sides of the argument, it will never be resolved.
Of course, that is just one white-middleclasee-cis-man's opinion. And so, possibly, easily dismissed* as total horse shit.
*other reasons to dismiss it are also available