Yes, a photographer at a wedding is a part of that ceremony, as is anyone else present. That's my opinion.
A person grows up when he learns to reject the wrong and choose the right. At times, this can mean giving up a profession.
So we shouldn't put murderers in prison because it means they have to give up their profession in order to learn that they were wrong?
Your point about race: even if we can compare same sex attraction to racial characteristics, and thus allow same sex marriage, some people believe that sexual activity is morally wrong for a same sex couple.
Their moral stance, though, is their issue, and should only impose restrictions on their behaviour. I don't get to say that stupidity is immoral, and therefore everyone should be banned from churches and homeopathy; I can, in our current society, make a case that one or both of those is sufficiently harmful that I think our society should prohibit it, and if enough people agree then we update our collective social contract to make it illegal.
Tellingly we've done that with discrimination on the grounds of race, sexuality, age, disability, gender identity, religious belief and sex; what we haven't done is impose it on having other people do things you don't like.
Your point 2. You forget that there are same sex attracted people who want to walk away from the homosexual lifestyle. You talk about be gay but don't do gay as if that's not an option.
I don't forget, it's just they aren't relevant to the discussion. It's not for you to impose limitations on people who aren't causing anyone any harm, it's for them to determine if they are happy with their life choices. If they come to you and ask for help or an opinion, give it freely; if they come to you for a cake because you're a baker shut the fuck up and make them a damned cake.
Regarding not baking a cake: whatever you call it, it's a moral choice that trader has to make, and now that the law requires him to be immoral, all such traders can only fold up their businesses.
Nobody is asking them to be immoral; they're being asked to bake a cake, which they're perfectly happy to do the rest of the time. Nobody's asking them to support the concept of gay marriage; if it comes up in a referendum, they can vote however they want. They're being asked, given that they've pitched to the world that they're bakers, to bake a cake.
Well perhaps they will in future start to do this without fighting it out in court, and that might be a better way to be a conscientious objector. Re: there are other florists... Ok there again the best solution may be for the florist to resign.
If you don't like the rules, you can either pitch to change them (we live in a democracy, of sorts, after all) or you can try to emigrate to a society which cleaves more closely to your beliefs for now - I hear Iran is nice,this time of year.
As someone who's experienced giving up a profession due to external pressures I can say it sometimes has to be done.
Is it 'external pressure'? That 'pressure' presumably was on other people, who didn't have the issue - maybe it was 'internal' pressure brought about by your particular stance?
As to the nature of marriage, well some people define it as the formation of a new family unit.
If your definition goes beyond what the law sets, then you're perfectly at liberty to hold to that definition for you, for others in your club who choose to adopt the same definition. You don't get to decide that for other people, though.
Again, the only realistic option when the law redefines that is to steer clear.
Or to accept that other people have other positions and it's not your place to try to enforce your particular choices on other people.
O.