What I am trying to find out is, Does everything have a methodology and is it reasonable to ask for a methodology for absolutely everything. So here we are discussing a methodology for finding love.
So far, in this quest, we are only at the point where you have met your wife. Most people meet several other people. But they don’t find love with all of them. This reply therefore does not tell us anything so far about any methodology for finding love. Indeed you suggest it was an accidental by product of another goal. And that isn’t a method at all.
We are still far away from concluding that requesting a method for finding God is at all reasonable.
What is certain is that empirical methods do not appear to rule in or rule out God. Where the “therefore God does not exist” come in I don't know other than some circular argument.
Most of the atheists on this board as far as I can tell do not make the positive claim that God does not exist. From the dictionary it seems the word "exist" is used in the English language only to refer to what can be objectively and repeatedly measured / detected by the tools of science because it is made up of matter / atoms / energy that could conceivably be tested/ detected. Theists on here are claiming that God cannot be detected by the tools of science, so based on the dictionary definition I am not sure how theists can make the positive claim that gods "exist". We just get caught up in the technicalities of justifying a claim we can't justify because there is no methodology to justify "exist" when it comes to gods.
I personally would therefore limit myself to putting forward my concept or opinion on what God is and why I follow Islam based on my subjective values, ethics, morals, beliefs all of which are based on emotional responses to a combination of reasoning, thoughts, personality, perceptions and experiences. I would also list the benefits I have experienced and if people find that resonates with them, they too may decide to look into Islam further, try it out at some point in the future if they are presented with the opportunity or they may not.
You could argue that theists can't know that in the future there will never be a technological development that could detect the substance of God, whatever that may be. But even if a new substance could be detected there is no method to link it to the various definitions of gods that theists believe in. How do you bridge that gap between the substance itself and the abstract concepts? It would be like trying to detect fairness, as an substance that exists, and then trying to link it to all the different definitions of "fair".
And for some people the claims of theists about gods are so contradictory and illogical that from a logic basis it would be impossible to devise a method to test illogical concepts.
So to sum up atheists on here usually say no theist has provided any reason for them to take the claim of gods seriously rather than making the positive claim that god does not exist. And if theists assert that gods exist, there is no requirement to take that assertion seriously as there is no method to test whether gods exist.
Regarding the contradictory nature of the claims theists make about gods - it would be a bit like a Muslim pointing a gun at Christians and saying God loves you and His message to humanity is that it is ok to kill you if you are so ungrateful as to not love Him back by obeying his laws and by converting to Islam. It's kind of contradictory with the definition of love that is in common usage so you don't take the Muslim or his contradictory claims seriously - you probably think the Muslim is a bit psychotic. So I think that the atheists on this board have the same problem with the claims that Christian theists put forward on these boards - there are too many internal contradictions about god's attributes in the stories to take it seriously.
I have probably missed a bit. But that sums up my understanding of the key parts of the atheist position.